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Grown-up Mean Girls: Dealing with Mom Bullies By Allison Ford

 

Grown-up Mean Girls: Dealing with Mom Bullies 

Anyone who says that childishness is solely the province of children has obviously never spent much time in modern parenting circles. It’s a sad fact of life that some people never grow out of being bullies—they just get older, meaner, and richer (although no less likely to steal your lunch money).

Being a mom these days is hard; there’s a pressure to be perfect that many previous generations of parents simply never felt. Modern moms are expected to nurture their brilliant little organic humanitarians with esoteric taste in music, and in the quest for modern parenting’s brass ring—a scholarship to Yale or a MacArthur genius grant—many moms end up so desperate to prove what a great job they’re doing that they end up making other moms feel like they’re failing.

 

Whether it’s the president of the PTA, a member of your playgroup, or even the parent of the kids next door, everyone knows women (and men) who make a point of belittling and berating other parents. Gone are the days when silly disagreements could be fought out at the bike rack after school, but there are still ways to deal with sanctimonious mothers who think they always know best.

 

The Green Meanie

This mom purées her own baby food from organic veggies she grows herself. She uses cloth diapers, dye-free bamboo fabric, cruelty-free lotions, and PBA-free plasticware, and she may even eschew vaccines in order to prevent her precious angel from ever coming into contact with a single chemical. All that effort may make her feel superior to the terrible monsters who let their children play with traditional toys instead of lead-free wooden blocks, but don’t forget that organic living is just a lifestyle choice, not a surefire path to healthier, happier, or smarter kids. So just relax about buying your baby shampoo at Wal-Mart instead of Whole Foods. When confronted by a mom who can’t fathom that not everyone has time to farm her own mangoes for hand-churned sorbet, ask her whether the landfill space saved by using cloth diapers really mitigates the carbon footprint of the delivery drivers and industrial machines her diaper service uses.

 

The Braniac Maniac

“You haven’t signed up your infant for preschool-entrance test prep yet?” wonders this mother of an overachiever. “Howwill he get into a good college if you don’t start now?” The parents of any child who’s simply playing or having fun must surely be unfit, because for this mom it’s all about enrichment, whether it’s Baby Einstein videos, Omega-3-enriched brain foods, electrolyte-enhanced water, SAT prep, summer violin camp, or extracurricular activities that are sure to make Baby smarter and look great on a college application. Well, Baby Einstein videos have been proven a scam, as have most “enrichment” aids for young children. Test prep can be valuable for high schoolers looking to go to a competitive college, but up until then, the experiences of goofing off, playing, and just being a kid are invaluable. Plus, allowing a child to be a child can save parents money on therapy costs later.

 

The Food Freak

Her child brings his own snacks when he comes to play. She crusades against birthday cake at school, and not only does she never allow her child to indulge in sweets, soda, candy, white flour, or any other food foe du jour, she also tries to make sure that yours doesn’t, either. Childhood obesity is a serious concern, and her intentions to keep kids healthy and slim may be noble, but the next time she asks you how you could ever allow your child to enjoy a Popsicle on a hot summer day, simply say, “You know, it’s impossible to keep kids away from junk food forever. Rather than make it seem more appealing by restricting it, we prefer to teach our child moderation. Don’t you think that’s more realistic?”

 

The Lactivist

Not breastfeeding your child is akin to child abuse, according to this know-it-all mom, who constantly extols the supposed benefits of breastfeeding: Calmer tummies! Fewer colds! Higher IQs! Every mother and every child is different, and whether or not to breastfeed remains a decidedly personal choice. After all, it’s not as if you can pick out the bottle-fed kids on the playground by their sickly pallor or lack of vitality. There are perfectly legitimate medical and personal reasons not to breastfeed, so any time a lactivist starts in on a lecture about the evils of the bottle, simply say, “I don’t feel comfortable discussing my personal medical history with you, but my doctor and I have decided that breastfeeding is not for me. Formula is perfectly well equipped to meet an infant’s nutritional needs, and I also rather enjoy not having cracked or bleeding nipples.”

 

The PTA Pain

She’s the chair of every school committee, she’s the third-grade room mother, and she’s first in line to volunteer to sit in the dunk tank at the school carnival. Any school is lucky to have a mom who is so dedicated, but some of these busy-bee mothers have a way of making anyone who gives any less than they do feel like a delinquent parent. The next time you’re badgered into chaperoning a field trip or working a bake sale against your will, have a private conversation with the PTAPain, reminding her that while other parents are grateful for her dedication, not everyone’s schedule or budget allows for such an outlay of time and money. If the harassment doesn’t stop, don’t regret limiting the activities you participate in or declining future requests for volunteers. After all, your child’s education isn’t tied to the number of hours of unpaid labor you perform.

 

Unfortunately, there’s no suppressing the human instinct to tell others what to do and how they could do it better. Parenting is no different, and with every mom and dad struggling to get it right, decisions about childcare philosophies are rife with opportunities for disagreement and resentment. Why parenting inspires such heated battles is the subject of endless debate. Some people are likely insecure about their choices and looking for validation; other people are desperate to prove that their way of parenting is the “right way.” And inevitably, just like in every other area of life, some people are just jerks.

I would like to thank my guest blogger Allison Ford, you are right on MaMa! :)

 

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Mom’s have been wearing all year at the GYM! Spring 2015 Hair Trends

Wow, you like? I just threw my hair up! 

New do's or just messy hair with a new twist, whatever it is I'm in. If you are not sure  what style will look best for your hair length and texture? Not to fear! Houte Living rounded up the hottest hair trends of spring 2015—from sleek pixie cuts, to beachy tousled waves—so you can welcome the warmer weather in style.

ROCK-N-ROLL PIXIE CUT
For a shorter hairstyle with a rocker twist, opt for all-over texture like Rita Ora and Jennifer Lawrence. Unlike traditional pixie cuts, messy, side-swept bangs keep this style looking feminine and oh-so-sexy. Feeling extra bold? Add a few face framing highlights or pump up the volume with a dollop of mousse or texturizing spray.

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This spring, it’s all about easy-breezy natural-looking locks. And sorry ladies, but it may be time to retire your flatiron—super-straight long manes are a thing of the past. Sexy shoulder-length cuts, like those sported by Kim Kardashianand Olivia Palermo, are going to be all the rage this season.

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HALF-UP TOP KNOT
Whether you’re running errands or hitting the town, some days you just want to pull your hair back off your face. And let’s face it, nothing looks hotter than when you look like your not trying. To re-create this style at home, grab a top section of hair and make a loose bun. Don’t worry about fly-aways or perfecting the perfect part—this hairstyle looks best messy.

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BEACH WAVES
Long, layered waves have been around for ages, and thankfully, they’re not going anywhere! To master this look at home, wrap small sections of hair around a large-barreled curling iron and spray with a spritz of hairspray. To keep your curls looking more beachy, be sure to only curl the hair up to your cheekbones and run your fingers through when finished to keep everything from looking too perfect.

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SIDE FISHTAIL BRAID
Braids are one of the most versatile hairstyle in existence—and for good reason! They complement little black dresses or hoodie sweatshirts and work with hair of all textures. To create a boho look like Shailene Woodley and Sarah Hyland, make the braid a little looser by slightly pulling it apart after braiding. Let a few face-framing strands hang loose.

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TOUSLED PONYTAIL
The difference between this ponytail and the one you wear to the gym—volume! For a chic finishing touch, wrap a strand of hair around the elastic.

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More business are using this METHOD, reduce stress, feel happier and productive $$$!

IMG_8274Meditation rooms to boardrooms! Something has got to change, the Biggest problem facing my clients and people today is stress and the feeling that they are never going to catch up, always a email or text to answer or a fire to put out, or worried somebody stepping on their turf. In order to manage many high level businesses/CEO's are seeking alternative ways to manage the unbalance in their lives, they want to reduce stress, feel happier without taking medication, without seeing a "shrink".   The feeling of being on call all the time and  under constant attack does impacts your health and effectiveness in doing your job. Business  are helping employees  taking action implementing new methods in the workplace helping lower sick days and increasing wellness and productivity. The Corso Methods works and people are seeing and seeing the  great results. More and more businesses professionals  are coming to me, for help. People want to feel better and don't want to take medication, they don't want to have to drink alcohol to relax. People want to feel good about themselves and work in a positive space. Its hard in the over stimulated world we live in to find peace, that is why I teach people to find it in their bodies. I see clients in NYC and at Nicholas Day Spa and Salon | Pelham NY 914 • 738 • 3838nicholasdayspa.com/ 

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 I have developed a method that can help restore and align the physical and emotional balance through Chakras. I have over 20 years of experience with Reiki and energy healing, Chakras and card reading and helping people move to a higher level. When your in balance you’re stronger and more resilient to stress and better at your job. The better you feel, the better equipped you’will be to manage work, people and stress without becoming overwhelmed, the more successful you will feel and it will reflect in your performance. When you feel happier and at peace the energy is picked up by people you work with. When the energy is good in a office productivity goes up. When productivity is up, people make more money, feel more in control of their lives and everyone benefits. Chakras are energy centers, or portals in the human energy field. Located along the central channel of the body from the base of the spine to the top of the head, they are conceived of as whirling, wheel-like vortices through which universal/cosmic energy flows into and out of a person. Some of my clients even have salt lamps on their desk to absorb negative energy. I often distribute crystals that are kept in the office or carried in a brief case. "what the hell I keep one in my bra". Can't hurt will only help says one of my multi million dollar real estate clients.IMG_8275

Many business people on are feeling sad and depressed and overwhelmed because the energy flow is off, even looking down at a computer and phone results in slumped over with your neck and shoulders curved forward and head looking down. Its just not a natural position and manifests in blocked energy flow. Resulting in headaches, eye strain and loss of creativity and being open to new ideas. Many people are stuck, stuck because the energy is not flowing in their bodies, stuck because they need to get out of the mind and in the body. I help shift the energy, its as simple as that.IMG_8276

The relationship between our mind and body runs both ways, meaning our mind influences the way our body reacts, but the form of our body also triggers our mind.

Taking care of yourself doesn't’ require a total lifestyle overhaul, it can start small and then organically it will naturally become bigger. When you feel good you look good and when you look good you feel good.  Even small things can lift your mood, increase your energy, and make you feel like you’re back in the driver’s seat. Take things one step at a time, and as you make more positive lifestyle choices, you’you will soon notice a reduction in your stress levels, both at home and at work.  For example salt lamps are even kept on your desk at work too,Himalayan Salt Lamp: Glass Bowl Lamp with Salt CrystalsHimalayan Salt Lamp: Glass Bowl Lamp with Salt Crystals. As Himalayan salt lamp warms up with the light bulb it emits negative ions into the air. This process may help relieve symptoms of Asthma, Sinusitis and common allergies, not to mention helps absorb co-workers negitive energy.images-22

I developed the The Corso Method to channel the body's innate energies.  While energy can neither be created, nor destroyed, this unique process balances the energy within, resulting in a more definitive, more elevated and more centered sense of being.
 With the customized practices of The Corso Method is:
- Guided Meditation
- Intention Visualization
-  Hands on Reiki Re-balancing
- Chakra Clearing and alignment
- Crystal Energies in conjunction with
and the Figure "8" Detoxifies with aroma therapy increases your personal vibration and frequency. chakra energy
 
Each component of the Practice, works together for the purpose of igniting the light within and restoring the balance, to enable ones full potentials. This method improves your ability to manage stress and lead through the change and challenge that have become inevitable in the lives of leaders CEO, business leaders. People want to improved effectiveness as a leaders and reduce stress, parents want to be in the moment and enjoy their children. People also want to find alternative ways to connect and relax with co workers and their families. Cocktails after work are fine, but night after night as a way to relax is not healthy or productive.  Sometimes people just loose track because they are stressed and not staying in the moment. The high level of stress may be your new normal. That is what I see when dealing with business leaders of today. Some CEO's are so stressed they are not even taking time out to take care of the normal functions. Sleeping, eating right, sex, and family time, ( not necessarily in that order).
Meditation combined with Reiki, Chakra alignment, are sharpening  my clients focus  to help them preform the most important tasks and priorities, in both their professional and personal lives.
The Corso Method  can actually do more in less time then other methods by having treatments and practicing the method daily.crystal-cove-med-2
Relaxing is critical for clear and creative thinking, strong relationships and good health. Energy you spend away from work can enhance your productivity and your capacity to deal with things at work. Just imagine when your energy is flowing and you feel good, relaxed positive what u can accomplish. Positive thinking, good energy affects the people u work with as well as personal life. When I say time away from work I mean a mini mental break during the day can help you reduce your stress. One of the challenges I encounter is that people are so busy planning the next move they are missing the moment resulting in a feeling of emptiness, never completing a task. 
With this method, companies are finding workers happier and less sick days. Its a wonderful feeling to be in balance and having everything aligned and feeling that the possibilities are endless of good energy and positive thoughts.
In NYC the energy of the city breeds creativity and new opportunities and when all of this is aligned the sky is the limit.
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2015 NBA All-Star Friday: Kevin Hart, Rudy Gobert, Andrew Wiggins WOWed us!

IMG_83692015 NBA All-Star Friday: Kevin Hart, Rudy Gobert, Andrew Wiggins WOWed 

Andrew Wiggins and Rudy Gobert led the World squad to an impressive win over Team USA. In the Celebrity Game, the West beat the East in what was fun, highlighted by Mo'ne Davis' sweet spin move and yet another Kevin Hart MVP performance, he did announce his retirement from basketball. "I can't do no more 4 times MVP"  He was very impressive on the court, that little guy can play. Zipping around the knee caps of the big guys.IMG_8371IMG_8373

The West team was coached by ESPN personality Mike Golic and Spike Lee, who was wearing a blue hat with orange trim in honor of his New York Knicks. Lee directed a commercial that starred Davis. Carmelo Anthony along with ESPN personality Mike Greenberg coached the East team.Sprint NBA All-Star Celebrity Game

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The game also included actors Anthony Anderson, Common, Nick Cannon, Sarah Silverman, Ansel Elgort, Chadwick Boseman, Jesse Williams and Michael Rapaport, who grew up in New York City. Williams, who stars on Grey's Anatomy, injured his knee with 5 minutes left in the game and was helped off the court and back to the locker room. Ouch, I felt so bad for him he looked like he was in a lot of pain.

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Bollywood star Abhishek Bachchan also played as did singer Win Butler of Arcade Fire.NBA Hall of Famer and New York native Chris Mullin played as did former New York Knicks' star Allan Houston. Current WNBA players Diggins, Tina Charles and Shoni Schimmel represented the league. Schimmel, who was the MVP of the WNBA All-Star game this past year, tricked Silverman — who was on the other team, to give her the ball under the basket which the Atlanta Dream star converted for a layup.

 

Sprint Celebrity Game 2015

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Half Time show was amazing : Nasri of Magic! performed, "Why do you have to be soo rude", loved it. NBA and the cocktails and food flowed at Madison Square Garden. This weekend is the hottest ticket in town.IMG_8370IMG_8367IMG_8366
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